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One More Hug
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Diana Harberts
The Who's Sewing featured artist is Diana Harberts - who just happens to be my cousin. Diana lives in California and when I taught at ETA- California in November I had the chance to see her. I had not seen Diana in many years. I was so touched and inspired by what she is doing I decided she had to be the new Who's Sewing feature. Be sure and scroll to the bottom of the page for the pictures.
In December of 2007 Diana lost her husband, Steve, who had suffered with ALS (Lou Gehrig's disease) for 3 1/2 years. She had always quilted, and knew using Steve's clothes for a quilt would keep the memories in a safe place, not a closet that she was afraid to open. Six months later Diana began making a quilt for their only daughter, Joanna, from his shirts, ties, pajamas and pants. Giving her daughter another hug from her father, and something concrete to hold helped her cope.
Later, Diana, made an entirely different quilt for herself. She felt she had a part of Steve still with her. It was almost like a hug. She hadn't had one of those since Steve lost the use of his arms, early in 2005. Just the thought of one more hug often brought tears in those days. Thus the name "One More Hug" seemed to come so naturally. That's what all of us long for.
Often after someone loses a loved one they will carry around their clothing for comfort, and to breath in the remaining fragrance the loved one left of themselves in the fabric. With Steve, she only had the memories, because most of the clothes had just hung in the closet for years. They could only use knits, and things that were easy to put on him during his illness. But the business clothes in the quilt brought memories of the architect he was, and the pride he took in himself and his job.
Diana joined a grief support group and found others were interested in what she had done and thus her new business "One More Hug" was born. Unlike traditional quilts, Diana uses any fabric types in the quilts. People bring her shirts, ties, suits, anything that is fabric and would have memories. She recommends they not be rewashed, most clothing was clean when it was put away. She decides on the design after consulting with the customer about the persons interests, and the sizes of the various memory pieces that need to go in the quilt.
"Doing the quilts has enabled me to give back so much of the love that was showng you to me by the Lord thru friends during Steve's illness. Our church brought meals two times a week, for over two years, people mowed the lawn, painted the shed, cleaned, and one of Steve's special friends was with us just about every day for the last two years, helping me with Steve, since Steve was 6'2", and 190 pounds when his disease started.
I will never feel the exact pain that my clients are feeling, but I have lost parents, a sister, brother-in-law and niece in a plane crash, and then my husband. Tears are always shed when I bring the quilts, because there are the memories, in a quilt we can hold. It hasn't been until the last few weeks that I could do anything but look at my quilt. The grief was still too strong. But just having it has been a comfort. And I love bringing that comfort in a unique, one of a kind way, to others.
In September 4, 2008 the Ventura County Star news paper did a article on what Diana. If you would like to read the article click here
Below: Diana on the left and my sister Janice who helped me at ETA on the right.
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